Showing posts with label Healthy Living. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Healthy Living. Show all posts

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Special envelope for school

Schools have re-opened in the south-east and the ones in NYC open on Sept 4th. For those who had an awesome summer vacation, there is going to be a period of separation anxiety or even an awkward uneasiness once the school reopens. Parents will miss their children and if the child is young, they will miss you. The older ones are awaiting for the school to re-open to escape from the clutches of parents.

If your child is young, below is a list of items that can go in a special “back-to-school kit” envelope. Be sure to include an item of each, and the kid knows what it stands for:

HANDWRITTEN NOTE - to remind you that we love you and miss you. You are attending school to learn and to grow up in knowledge

KLEENEX – to remind you to dry someone’s tears (or perhaps your own, so you can see the tears of others)

BUTTON – to remind you to “button your lips” to keep from saying mean things about others or talking when it’s not appropriate

RUBBER BAND – to remind you of hugging and those times when you want to give a hug or want to receive one

TOOTHPICK – to remind you to “pick out” the good qualities of everyone - including you

BAND-AID – to remind you of healing hurt feelings, either yours or someone else’s

CANDY KISS – to remind you that everyone needs a nice treat occasionally

GOLD THREAD – to remind you that friendship is the golden thread that ties together the hearts of everyone

ERASER – to remind you that everyone makes mistakes sometimes, and that’s all right

LIFESAVER CANDY – to remind you to think of me as YOUR “lifesaver.” Whenever need to talk, feel free to come see me!!!

MINT – to remind you that you are worth a MINT to me!

Friday, August 15, 2014

The business of living

Real is the person who does not define happiness as an absence of problems. Surviving this business of living is a difficult ordeal at times. How can we retain a healthy sense of humor and experience a sense of balance in our lives? How can we realistically and yet with a sense of wonder live fully and not just survive? How can we maybe even celebrate this business of living? To answer some of these questions we will focus on seven points.

Life Isn't Fair
No matter how good we get at this business of living, none of us gets out of it alive. Frustrating, isn't it! Life doesn't always deal us a good hand and doing our best doesn't always pay off with a positive.

Growth is seldom easy and pain is an integral part of our human condition. Everybody hurts. It's just that some of us are better actors in hiding the pain we feel. Seldom if ever ... are all of our ducks in a row.

Loneliness and Alikeness
Dr. Albert Schweitzer said, "We are all so much together, but we are all dying of loneliness." We have all known moments of apartness and empty loneliness. Embracing that reality is essential if we are to cope effectively.

Personal Responsibility
We each have a choice to be either a death-peddler or a life-giver. We are responsible for the choices we make. We can become most of what we wish to be if we are willing to change and pay the price.

Self Worth
A poster reads, "God don't make junk." People are special and each is, "Beautiful in his/her own way." We are more than our accomplishments!

People Need People
Life is not meant to be lived in isolation. All of life occurs within relationships. We need to know we are needed and so do those we need.

Life is not just one big problem to be solved. Rather, it is a mystery to be experienced, all the more meaningful and beautiful when it is shared and celebrated with other persons who are committed to "growing deep, not just tall!"

Credits: Karen Kaiser Clark

Monday, September 2, 2013

Spicing up the marriage

A certain group of married women attended a seminar on 'How to Spice up Your Married Life.'

The speaker asked, “How many of you love your husbands?”

All the women raised their hands. Some even raised both their hands!

The speaker then followed up with another question, “When was the last time you told your husband you loved him?”

Some women answered ‘Today’ some ‘Yesterday,’ some ‘Can't remember.’

Next, the speaker asked the women to pull out their cell phones from their purse and send the following text: “I love you, sweetheart.”

The women were then told to exchange their cell phones and to read out the response text message which they received. Here are some of the replies:

1. OK, who is this?

2. Eh, mother of my children, are you sick?

3. I love you too.

4. What now? Did you crash the car again?

5. I don’t understand what you mean?

6. What did you do now?

7. ??

8. Don’t beat about the bush, just tell me how much you need?

9. Am I dreaming?

10. If you don’t tell me who this message is actually for, someone will die.

11. I thought we agreed we would not drink during the day.

12. Your mother is coming to stay, isn't she??

The speaker concluded this exercise with the following advice: Don’t let this be you and your spouse! Start making those needed changes today!

My Thoughts:
Husbands always love to see such text messages being displayed on their on their cell phone screens. A word of caution, though - two or more such text message could result in a fabulous romantic evening.

The speaker's advice is true for guys as well. Women appreciate any sign of love displayed by their husbands, as guys in general hold back expressing their emotions and feelings.

I have a motto which I follow:
Happy Wife, Happy Life!


Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Motion sickness

Some of us, we suffer from motion sickness which ruin summer travel, with symptoms including dizziness, headache, nausea and most unfortunately, vomiting. Some 25% to 40% of the population suffers from some degree of motion sickness, depending on the mode of transportation.

Here is a link with few tips on how to avoid feeling sick while traveling.

Uneasy Rider

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Count that day lost

If you sit down at set of sun
And count the acts that you have done,
And, counting, find
One self-denying deed, one word
That eased the heart of him who heard, 
One glance most kind
That fell like sunshine where it went 
Then you may count that day well spent.

But if, through all the livelong day,
You've cheered no heart, by yea or nay
If, through it all
You've nothing done that you can trace
That brought the sunshine to one face
No act most small
That helped some soul and nothing cost
Then count that day as worse than lost. 

Credits: George Eliot (1819 - 1880)

Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Help with Homework

Here’s advice from experts about what parental input truly helps kids-and what doesn't.

DO provide your child with a space in the house that is clean, well lit, and set aside especially for doing homework.

DON’T let your your kid watch TV, take phone calls, or make pit stops at the refrigerator during homework time.

DO help your child get started on task and brainstorm ideas for projects. Ask what topics are of interest for them.

DON’T tell your child the answers. This sends the message that someone will bail them out when faced with a challenge.

DO praise your child. Educators say that effort is more important than success. Be sure to applaud small milestone.

DON’T nag or bully your child into getting homework done. Pestering most often breeds resentment, not motivation.

DO acknowledge homework that is well done. But instead of gifts, let them pick an activity, such as trip to the zoo or play at the park.

DON’T bribe your child to do homework by offering money or gifts. This teaches kids to work only for compensation.

Credits: Ladie’s HomeJournal

Monday, May 6, 2013

The Little Gentleman

Take your meal, my little man,
Always like a gentleman;
Wash your face and hands with care,
Change your shoes, and brush your hair.

Then so fresh and clean and neat,
Come and take your proper seats;
Do not loiter and be late,
Making other people wait.

Do not rudely point or touch;
Do not eat and drink too much,
Finish what you have, before
You even ask or send for more.

Never crumble or destroy
Food that others might enjoy;
Never spill your milk or tea,
Never rude or noisy be.

Never choose the dainties food,
Be content with what is good;
Seek in all things that you can
To be a little gentleman.

Credits: The Gentleman's Magazine

Friday, May 3, 2013

Boy Wanted - advertisement

This "want ad" appeared in the early part of the 20th century.

Wanted - A boy that stands straight, sits straight, acts straight, and talks straight;

A boy whose fingernails are not in mourning, whose ears are clean, whose shoes are polished, whose clothes are brushed, whose hair is combed, and whose teeth are well cared for;

A boy who listens carefully when he is spoken to, who asks questions when he does not understand, and does not ask questions about things that are none of his business;

A boy that moves quickly and makes as little noise about it as possible;

A boy who whistles in the street, but does not whistle where he ought to keep still;

A boy who looks cheerful, has a ready smile for everybody, and never sulks;

A boy who is polite to every man and respectful to every woman and girl;

A boy who does not smoke cigarettes and has no desire to learn how;

A boy who is more eager to know how to speak good English than to talk slang;

A boy that never bullies other boys nor allows other boys to bully him;

A boy who, when he does not know a thing, says, "I don't know," and when he has made a mistake says, "I'm sorry," and when he is asked to do a thing says, "I'll try";

A boy who looks you right in the eye and tells the truth every time;

A boy who is eager to read good books;

A boy who would rather put in his spare time at the YMCA gymnasium than to gamble for pennies in a back room;

A boy who does not want to be "smart" nor in any wise to attract attention;

A boy who would rather lose his job or be expelled from school than to tell a lie or be a cad;

A boy whom other boys like;

A boy who is at ease in the company of girls;

A boy who is not sorry for himself, and not forever thinking and talking about himself;

A boy who is friendly with his mother, and more intimate with her than anyone else;

A boy who makes you feel good when he is around;

A boy who is not goody-goody, a prig, or a little pharisee, but just healthy, happy, and full of life.

This boy is wanted everywhere. The family wants him, the school wants him, the office wants him, the boys want him, the girls want him, all creation wants him.

Credits: Frank Crane

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Few musings

1 Prayer is not a "spare wheel" that you pull out when in trouble, but it is a "steering wheel" that directs the right path throughout.

2 A car's front windshield is larger compared to the rear one, because our past is not as important as our future. Look ahead and move on.

3 Friendship & relationships are like a book. It takes few seconds to burn, but it takes years to write.

4 All things in life are temporary. If going well enjoy it, they will not last forever. If going wrong don't worry, they can't last long either.

5 Old Friends are Gold! New Friends are Diamond! If you get a Diamond, don't forget the Gold! Because to hold a Diamond, you always need a Base of Gold!

6 Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, God smiles from above and says, "Relax, sweetheart, it's just a bend, not the end!

7 When God solves your problems, you have faith in His abilities; when God doesn't solve your problems He has faith in your abilities.

8 When you pray for others, God listens to you and blesses them, and sometimes, when you are safe and happy, remember that someone has prayed for you.

9 Worrying does not take away tomorrows' troubles, it takes away today’s' peace.

Friday, January 4, 2013

Successful Thinking

Success in living and working in today’s “information Age” requires successful thinking. The good news is that everyone is capable of increasing successful thinking. Successful thinking is using any mental skill to get results. Here are 20 easy ways to get better results with your thinking.

1. Increase knowledge. First, set your ego aside and openly acknowledge how little you really do know right now compared to all that you can know. Then commit to being a perpetual learner for the rest of your life. Grow, learn and improve with every breath. That acknowledgment and commitment will get results.

2. Beware of what you “know.” Understand how your own brain “tricks” you into over-simplifying things, distorting perceptions and memories, and convincing you things are true despite the lack of evidence. Things are not always as they appear and all that you think you know may not always be so. Truth isn’t easy to discern.

3. Slow down. Reject your natural tendency to hurry up and believe something too quickly before you get all the facts or get a chance to move to a more advantageous viewpoint. You can often get more done when you take your time.

4. Value principles. Look for operating principles that hold true in a variety of situations over time. For instance, you usually get what you expect; if you don’t like what you get, blame your expectation.

5. Make one assumption: One assumption is probably worth making: miscommunication and misunderstanding are more the norm than not. Good communication takes hard work and doesn’t occur without much care and effort to understand and be understood by another person through gradual clarification.

6. Verify other assumptions. Question basic assumptions you have made or that were made for you-look for disproof of what you and others are “sure” of, rather than just looking for more available proof to confirm what you already believe.

7. Re-think what you know. You don’t always need more information, but rather to use what information you already have, better. Creativity can often start by looking at older, conventional ideas in newer and more unusual ways.

8. Ask Questions. Focus more on asking good questions than coming up with clever answers. Good questions open doors and create progress.

9. Separate feelings from thinking. With conflicts, first peel the onion to see and remove all the emotions that are clouding the issue. Then look for ways everybody can win something and not lose anything important by rationally discussing the situation. Conflicts are opportunities that challenge your thinking.

10. Dig Deeper. Sometimes it is worth the effort to dig a little deeper and separate the superficial surface symptoms from the hidden core problem in a situation. Knowing what the real problem is can be half the solution.

11. Accept random accidents. Sometimes random accidents do occur and trying to ascribe meaning and purpose to them is artificial. Besides you are often wrong.

12. Be positive. Focusing on negative things and differences can be amusing but it isn’t very productive; focusing on positive similarities builds unity and strength. Having positive beliefs and positive expectations tend to lead to positive outcomes.

13. Exercise. You can easily get out of shape mentally if you don’t exercise your brain regularly. Make an effort to read more, pay closer attention to details, have more meaningful discussions, work from a definite plan, apply systematic problem-solving strategies, analyze failures and successes, etc.

14. Learn. Learn from both your failures and successes-avoid making unnecessary past mistakes over and over again, and re-use elements from your successes to increase them in the future. The lessons you learn will reduce failures and increase successes.

15. Converse with “enemies.” You can learn much from people you disagree with. Understanding “opposite points of view can double your IQ.

16. Share suspicions. The information you have that you are least sure of, can often turn out to be the most valuable, useful information, once you get over your reluctance and hesitancy in sharing and validating it with others.

17. Know where you are standing. What you see depends on where you are doing the looking from. Become more sensitive to the reality that what you see changes when you move around.

18. Study thinking. Most of our consciousness is a result of thinking, not thinking itself. Focus on what you need to know to solve a problem and then direct your thoughts to uncover that knowledge in a complete and correct way.

19. Keep an open mind. The most useful mental skill is keeping an open mind-not making pre-judgments, convincing yourself you are right, arriving at pre-mature conclusions, or not setting beliefs and values in concrete; but rather being tentative, non-judgmental and exploring possibilities more. You might be surprised what you discover when you aren’t looking for something in particular.

20. Laugh. Very few things are that serious. Being too serious taxes your whole being and a good hearty laugh frees you up for more successful thinking when you may need it most.

Practice any of these 20 exercises in successful thinking and watch your win column grow.

This article was written by William Cottringer, Ph.D, President of Puget Sound Security in Bellevue, WA. He is author of You Can Have Your Cheese & Eat It Too.

Wednesday, October 10, 2012


Sharing an article I read about perfectionists.
Many Americans consider themselves to be perfectionists.

But striving for perfection often leads to frustration, procrastination and stress-related symptoms, such as anxiety, anger and depression. And because perfectionists can be hard on others when they fail to measure up, perfectionism can also lead to loneliness.

"A perfectionist is someone who demands of himself or herself and others a higher quality of performance than is required by the situation," says Steven Hendlin, Ph.D., a clinical and sports psychologist in Irvine, Calif. "Anything short of perfection in their performance becomes unacceptable."

Click here to read more
This article is not aimed at anyone in particular and certainly not at women just because it appeared under women's health.

Do you know of a perfectionist? Sometimes, when I think of myself, I feel like I am more of one.

Here is a graphic that appeared in an article.

Saturday, August 25, 2012

West Nile Virus spreading

Map of West Nile Virus activity in the United States

The Georgia Department of Public Health (DPH) is calling on all Georgians to guard against exposure to mosquitoes. DPH has identified 21 confirmed cases of the West Nile Virus (WNV) in the state. Three cases have been fatal.

Confirmed cases are in the following counties:
7 – Dougherty (including 2 deaths),
3 – Cobb,
2 – Muscogee,
1 – Bartow,
1 – Columbia,
1 – Fulton,
1 – Forsyth,
1 – Early (including 1 death),
1 – Lee,
1 – Mitchell,
1 – Richmond,
1 – Worth.

Click here to read more and stay away from your mosquito friends for now. Use repellents to keep them away and from coming anywhere near you.

Credits: WJBF News Channel 6, CDC

Monday, July 30, 2012

Being a great dad

Human birth in itself is a miracle.  Almost 40% of all births in America are illegitimate. In the African American community, the statistics is horrible - about 60% of all births are illegitimate. This means that so many of the young children start their lives without the presence of a father.

Now, for those lucky few children who have a dad in residence, often, dad has a passive role.  Either he is so absorved in his career or busy with worldly matters that he is practically nonexistent in the home. Some of the dads who are at home spent most of their time intoxicated and are glued to the TV sets by paying little attention to their growing children.  In turn, he has no clue about the growing needs of a young child.

Here are three simple steps for dads to get involved in the family:

Show up:
A responsible and decicated dad shows his support by being present at home. This is essentially the first step. When he is present at home, he creates an atmosphere where the family mingles with each other and get to know each other of their daily challenges and fears. The active role of a dad in the family empowers a child to venture with confidence into the greater world and to become all that he/she can be.

Dine together:
The next step for the dad is to dine together with the family. Dinner table provides the best place to catch up the daily activities. When dad is present at the dinner table, there is something special about the shared meal. Eating dinner together as a family provides opportunities for communication. Kids who eat most often with their parents are more likely to excel at school than kids who have two or fewer family dinners a week.

Pray together:
Finally, families who pray together, stay together. Dad can take the lead to form this wonderful habit at home. By praying together, there is unity happening. Not only is there a bonding time with the family, but also a spiritual covering as well.

By following these three simple steps, any dad can appear as a superhero to the entire family.


Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Staying young

Keep only cheerful friends.
The grouches pull you down.

Keep learning.
Learn more about the crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. An idle mind is the devil's workshop.

Enjoy the simple things.
Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.

The tears happen.
Endure, grieve, and move on.  The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.

Surround yourself with what you love.
Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.

Cherish your health:
If it is good, preserve it.  If it is unstable, improve it.  If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

Don't take guilt trips.
Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is.

Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Balancing work and life

Recently, I started shutting down all my work by Saturday evening to enjoy a weekly day of rest.  During my vacation, I did not logon to my computer for over a week - I stayed away from getting online, emails and work related stuff.  The real reason was I was away from internet and had limited time to spend with my family and friends.  

Even With all the advanced technological inventions around us, people are working longer hours compared to our older generations.  As a result, leisure and family time gets squeezed out of our lives.  Work is an excuse for many of us to escape from our family, friends and church.

Certainly, there is a clear need for balance between work and leisure. Hard work is good, but the sabbath day is God's gift to us - to bring balance to our lives. Every one of us need one day 'free time' from our daily work schedule to enjoy this gift.

Plan to build a good balance between work and rest - it helps us being productive the following week.

Monday, April 23, 2012

Life as a Voyage

We convince ourselves that life will be better once we are married, have a baby, then another. Then we get frustrated because our children are not old enough, and that all will be well when they are older. Then we are frustrated because they reach adolescence and we must deal with them. Surely we’ll be happier when they grow out of the teen years.

We tell ourselves our life will be better when our spouse gets his/her act together, when we have a nicer car, when we can take a vacation, when we finally retire. The truth is that there is no better time to be happy than right now.

If not, then when?

Our life will always be full of challenges. It is better to admit as much and to decide to be happy in spite of it all.

For the longest time, it seemed that life was about to start.

Real life.

But there was always some obstacle along the way, an ordeal to get through, some work to be finished, some time to be given, a bill to be paid. Then life would start.

I finally came to understand that those obstacles were life.

That point of view helped me see that there isn’t any road to happiness.

Happiness IS the road.

So, let's enjoy every moment.

Let's stop waiting for school to end, for a return to school, to lose ten pounds, to gain ten ounds, for work to begin, to get married, for Friday evening, for Sunday morning, waiting for a new car, for your mortgage to be paid off, for spring, for summer, for fall, for winter, for the first or the fifteenth of the month, for your song to be played on the radio, to die, to be reborn… before deciding to be happy.

Happiness is a voyage, not a destination.

There is no better time to be happy than… NOW!

Let's live and enjoy this very moment.

Friday, April 20, 2012

Driving hymns

The below 'driving hymns' are for all of us who drive - especially for those who push speed limits. Keep these hymns in mind & sing along while driving, watching your speedometer.

55 mph – Pass Me Not
65 mph – God Will Take Care of You
75 mph – Nearer My God To Thee
85 mph – This World Is Not My Home
95 mph – Lord, I’m Coming Home
105 mph – Precious Memories


Friday, April 13, 2012

The joy of giving

Once upon a time, a greedy, rich man hired a great mathematician. The rich man wanted the mathematician to find the best way for him to make the greatest profit in everything he did. The rich man was building a huge safe, and his greatest dream was to fill it with gold and jewels.

The mathematician was shut away for months in his study, before finally believing he had found the solution. But he soon found there were some errors in his calculations, and he started all over again.

One night he appeared at the rich man's house, with a big smile on his face: "I found it!" he said, "My calculations are perfect." The rich man was going on a long journey the next day, and didn't have time to listen. He promised the mathematician he would pay him double his wages if he would take charge of the business while he was away, and put the new formulas into practice. Excited by his new discovery, the mathematician was delighted to accept.

When the rich man returned, months later, he found that all of his possessions had gone. Furious, he went to ask for an explanation from the mathematician. The mathematician calmly told him what he had done. He had given everything away to people. The rich man couldn't believe it, but the mathematician explained it further.

"For months I analysed how a rich man could gain the maximum benefit, but what I could do was always limited. There's a limit to how much one man can do by himself. Then I understood the key was that many people could help us to achieve the aim. So the conclusion was that helping others was the best way to get more and more people to benefit us."

Disappointed and furious, the greedy man stormed off, desperate at having lost everything to the hare-brained schemes of a madman. However, while he was walking away disconsolately, several neighbours ran over, worried about him. All of them had been helped when the mathematician shared out the rich man's fortune. They felt so grateful to him that they offered him the hospitality of their houses, and anything such a special man might need. The neighbours even argued over who would get to help him.

Over the next few days, he saw the full results of what the mathematician had calculated. Wherever he went he was received with great honour, and everyone was willing to help him in whatever way they could. He realised that his not having anything had given him much, much more.

In this way, he managed to quickly set up flourishing businesses, but this time he followed the brilliant mathematician's advice. No longer did he keep his riches in a safe, or anything like it. Instead, he shared out his fortune among a hundred friends, whose hearts he had converted into the safest, most grateful and fruitful of safes.

The biggest joy is when we give - it could be our time, advice, knowledge or even a listening ear.  Jesus was preaching about giving, on several occasions.  Here is an article on giving by Deepak Chopra.

Credits: Pedro Sacristán