Thursday, October 23, 2014
Electronic gadgets have become commonplace and all of us have an electronic fingerprint. If you are an old person like me, you may recall the good old days where we had no electronic shackles. Everyone was free to move around and only God knew where everyone was. Ok - our best friends knew where we were.
Once we have those new gadgets, then we have to have someone sending us messages. That could be emails, fb posts, tweets, whatsapp messages, or even texts. Phone calls are bit old fashioned!
When you are away at work, or travelling, communicate with your wife via various electronic media available. Call her to check on her and to inform her how you are doing. Just call for the sake of hearing her voice.
Proverbs 16:23 (NLT) From a wise mind comes wise speech; the words of the wise are persuasive.
Send her an email, if there are things you do not need immediate answers. Let her think over those items and take her own sweet time to respond. Take time to compose an email, and do not be afraid to pour out your heart.
While at office, stay connected via short and sweet text messages such as,
- Thinkin abt U.
- Waitin to C U 2nite
- Had Lunch?
Once in a while, send her some hot & sexy text message. Women feel uncomfortable and vulnerable when anyone comments about any body parts other than their face. A word of caution - double check the destination address, as you do not want to end up such messages in wrong hands.
A wife misses her husband while he is away, and she tends to feel lonely. A good husband will stay connected. The goal of him communicating to his wife while he is away is to provide a soothing and comforting atmosphere.
Proverbs 12:18 (NLT) Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing.
When asked about opinions, speak the truth. Do not sugarcoat or try to impress by a good answer. Being a practical person, women know that truth is sour but they will accept it.
Proverbs 24:26 An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.
Stay in touch with your wife constantly. Send her one liners text messages, emails, voice mails or even short romantic poems when you find them. Let her know that you think of her numerous times a day. Women tend to evaluate their 'likeliness' everyday and receiving communication from you brings a feeling of belonging.
Dear God, allow my wife to feel secure and a sense of belonging while I am away from her. Enable her to stay connected with you at all times. From my side, I ask you for the right words to include in those messages so that she is amused, engaged and entertained without feeling the void. Though we are far apart during the day, bring us together by means of constant communication and prayers.
Tuesday, October 21, 2014
A husband should always remember that his wife has left her home and surroundings to join him in his journey. Whatever decision he makes, affects her as well. She is fully dependent upon him to navigate her through the maze of life.
A wife can see her husband's character much clearer than anyone, and she is constantly observing it. He can gain her confidence by being honest and possessing integrity. Integrity is the bond that holds the virtues of a man together. Integrity is the mark of a man who has successfully combined good principles. Such a wife respects her husband and feels extremely safe in his company. Men with integrity are destined to succeed at all times.
Proverbs 10:9 (NLT) People with integrity walk safely,
but those who follow crooked paths will be exposed.
In order to uphold integrity, one may have to suffer setbacks at times. The best biblical example is the tragedy that struck Job. Listen to what Job's wife says out of frustration:
Job 2:9 (NLT) His wife said to him, “Are you still trying to maintain your integrity? Curse God and die.”
Job knew his wife did not mean what she said. She was broken down after the hefty loss they incurred. Job stood there like a mighty oak tree without shattering his faith in the Lord and not willing to compromise his integrity. In the long run, individuals with honesty and integrity rise to the top, just like how oil always floats over water.
Proverbs 2:7 (NLT) He grants a treasure of common sense to the honest.
He is a shield to those who walk with integrity.
We see that in the story of Job as well. Lord strengthens those who decide to stay firm in their principles.
Job 42:10 (NLT) When Job prayed for his friends, the Lord restored his fortunes. In fact, the Lord gave him twice as much as before!
Those with integrity are good at keeping promises - whether small or big. They receive respect from their family in return. The wife of such an individual will feel extremely safe in following such a husband in her new environment.
Work on strengthening those factors such as truthfulness and integrity. Trust in small things yield towards trust in larger things. When a husband shows the traits of integrity, every small compliment he makes made on various occasions adds intimacy. Tell her truly what you love about her - regardless of how insignificant that is. She will value your honest opinion.
God Almighty, please grant my wife the heart to follow me wherever I take her. Make her confident and fearless that she is walking in Your way. Kindly enable me to possess the traits of honesty and integrity both at home and outside. May my family members feel safe around me and in what I speak. I pray for her family members who miss her at this time. Enable her to feel at home in her new surroundings.