Saturday, December 1, 2012

Sharing Secrets

What is love? 
"Love is when one person knows all of your secrets…
your deepest, darkest, most dreadful secrets
of which no one else in the world knows…
and yet in the end, that one person does not think any less of you;
even if the rest of the world does.”
- Anonymous

Every one of us has some parts of ourselves that is unknown to others - secrets.

We don't share secrets with others due to various reasons - some are not worth sharing, some are very personal, some are embarrassing and yet some are about our early lives. Finally, we also have our own most closely guarded secrets - which nobody knows. 

These secrets we keep privately, if let out, can have adverse effects of poisoning a relationship depending on it's toxicity. We are aware of this after math and hence guard them closely enough and act as if everything is quite right - not allowing anyone to see past the illusions we project while getting better at guarding & keeping our own secrets hidden.

Let us ask ourselves, "Today am I completely free of secrets?" Most likely, the big ones kept longest and feared the most are never untold - primarily due to the fear of response ranging from being rejected, stigmatized, scorned, ridiculed and contempt.  

The truth of the matter maybe that we still don't have anyone whom we can share - still seeking for that one person to whom we can reveal all our secrets; the right person whom we can trust 100%; someone who will continue to see us the same way with kindness and understanding; someone who won't hurt or manipulate us; someone who will not capitalize on what we just uttered. 

A secret is a burden, and it weights on the bearer who wants to get rid of it. When we share a secret with our trusted one, it is an invitation to help us carry the weight of it and an attempt to shift some of the burden with the other. A secret could be embarrassing, painful, shame, or challenge, but once revealed is no longer a burden.

Personally, I am still trying not to carry any burden within myself by being the same person I am outwardly as the inward me.  It is such a relief to be free of secrets, feeling light and I truly am grateful. 


Thursday, November 29, 2012

Ten Commandments - Native American

1. Treat the Earth and all that dwell therein with respect.

2. Remain close to the Great Spirit.

3. Show great respect for your fellow beings.

4. Work together for the benefit of all Mankind.

5. Give assistance and kindness wherever needed.

6. Do what you know to be right.

7. Look after the well-being of Mind and Body.

8. Dedicate a share of your efforts to the greater Good.

9. Be truthful and honest at all times.

10. Take full responsibility for your actions.


Wednesday, November 28, 2012

The tale of two seeds

Once, two seeds lay side by side in a fertile soil.

The first seed said, "I want to grow! I want to send my roots deep into the soil beneath me, and thrust my sprouts through the earth's crust above me. I want to unfurl my tender buds like banners to announce the arrival of spring. I want to feel the warmth of the sun on my face and the blessing of the morning dew on my petals!"

And so she grew.

The second seed said, "I am afraid. If I send my roots into the ground below, I don't know what I will encounter in the dark. If I push my way through the hard soil above me I may damage my delicate sprouts. What if I let my buds open and a snail tries to eat them? And if I were to open my blossoms, a small child may pull me from the ground. No, it is much better for me to wait until it is safe."

And so she waited.

A yard hen scratching around in the early spring ground for food found the waiting seed and promptly ate it.

Moral: We all are seeds in the process of growing and those of us who refuse to risk & grow get swallowed up by life.


Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Rules of being human

If life is a game, these are 10 rules of being human.

1. You will receive a body.
You may love it or hate it, but it will be yours for the duration of your life time on Earth.

2. You will learn lessons.
You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called "life." Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or hate them, but you have designed them as part of your curriculum.

3. There are no mistakes, only lessons.
Growth is a process of trial and error: experimentation. The "failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately "works."

4. A lesson is repeated until learned.
A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can then go on to the next lesson.

5. Learning does not end.
There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

6. "THERE" is no better than "HERE.",
When your "there" has become a "here," you will simply obtain another "there" that will again look better than "here."

7. Others are only mirrors of you.
You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself. Each reflection is an opportunity for growth.

8. What you make of your life is up to you.
You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

9. Your answers lie inside of you.
The answers to Life's questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen and trust.

10. You will forget all of this at birth!
You can remember it whenever you want.

Credits: Shawn Evans

Monday, November 26, 2012

Humility Theory

Once Chaerephon, a loyal friend and follower of Socrates asked Pythia, commonly known as the Oracle of Delphi, who was the priestess at the Temple of Apollo at Delphi, located on the slopes of Mount Parnassus,

"Is anyone wiser than Socrates?"

The oracle answered, “No, Socrates is the wisest person.”

Socrates reported that he is puzzled by this answer since so many other people in the community are well known for their extensive knowledge and wisdom, but Socrates claims that he lacks extensive knowledge and wisdom. Socrates does an investigation to get to the bottom of this puzzle. He interrogates a series of politicians, poets, and craftsmen.

As one would expect, the Socratic grilling reveals that those who claim to know either did not really know any of the things they claimed to know, or else they knew far less than they proclaimed to know. The most knowledgeable of the bunch, the craftsmen, knew quite a bit about their craft, but they claimed to know things far beyond the scope of their expertise. Socrates, so we are told, neither suffers the vice of claiming to know when he does not know nor of claiming to have wisdom when he does not have wisdom. In this revelation, we are supposed to have a resolution to the wisdom puzzle aching men considered wise by the people of Athens - statesmen, poets, and artisans - in order to refute the Oracle's pronouncement.

Questioning them, however, Socrates concluded that, while each man thought he knew a great deal and was wise, in fact they knew very little and were not wise at all. Socrates realized that the Oracle was correct, in that while so-called wise men thought themselves wise and yet were not, he himself knew he was not wise at all, which, paradoxically, made him the wiser one since he was the only person aware of his own ignorance.

Although the story may seem to deliver a clear theory of what it is to be wise, it is difficult to capture a textually accurate and plausible theory.

One interpretation is that Socrates is wise because he, unlike the others, believes he is not wise. The poets, politicians, and craftsmen arrogantly and falsely believe they are wise. This theory, which is labeled Humility Theory goes like this:

"S is wise if S believes s/he is not wise."

Stanford University Encyclopedia of Philosophy
Jacobus Gericke