Saturday, January 14, 2012

7 things to give

An article by Chris Widener on 7 things to give.

A major part of the process of achieving success and living the kind of life that you dream of is to give. Many people think that to get what you want you have to take it. There is a universal truth though that the true path to get what you want is to give. When you give, you get. What you sow, you shall reap. If this is true, then what is it we must give? I'll show you the way…

Give Others Your Honesty.
The world we live in has a simple rule that most follow: Lie when you have to. Unfortunately, this may make some people wealthy but it make us humans poor. To achieve success is to become wealthy not only in money, but in character. To be successful, truly successful, is to be able to attain your goals and keep your character at the same time!

How about you? Are you honest in all things? The problem with little lies is they become big ones. Lies spin out of control. You get caught in one lie and you lie to get out of it etc. In all things and at all times, give others your honesty.

Give Others Your Respect. 
Most of the time we give people respect based on what they have done or what they have accomplished. We gauge whether or not they are "worthy" of it based on what we know of what they have achieved or who they know or are related to.

But I believe we should have a higher standard: We respect people not for what they have done or for who they are related to or for what they can do for us. Instead, we respect people for simply being.…

Give Others Your Vulnerability. 
We are taught to "be strong." And yes, we should be strong. But we have also embraced something that I think keeps us from having the kind of life that we long for. It is an idea that keeps us from experiencing the kind of relationships that would bring deep meaning to us. It is the idea of vulnerability.

"But Chris, make yourself vulnerable and people will step all over you!" It is true that this will happen. But I have also seen that most people will be drawn to you. They will help you. They will open up to you. You see, we are all broken people inside. We all have secrets. Yet everyone plays the poser. When one let's down their veil, others soon follow—and we all win.

Give Others Your Care. 
Too many people are running around this old earth not caring about others. The days of "Look Out for Number One" and "Winning Through Intimidation" are over! Let's bring about a new day when we can care about others and succeed!

Take the time to show people you care. Listen to them. Empathize with them. Love them. Now, I don't mean that you have to go around hugging everyone—that probably wouldn't fly in corporate America anyway—but we can take some time to step back from business and be human! And I have found that when we do so, our business succeeds as well!

Give Others Your Passion. 
There is nothing this world needs more than passionate people. And people need passionate people. Living in this day and age can be tiring. The hustle and bustle of it all can wear you down and tire you out. Give your passion to others and fire them up.

Don't just be humdrum—be excited. Give people all the energy you can muster up. And you will find that energy reciprocal. They will get energized and passionate. This in turn will fire you up more when you are already charged and get you going altogether when you don't feel like moving at all!

Give Others Your Experience.
We all have areas that we excel in and they are usually areas that we have experience in. One of the things we can do to make our lives more meaningful and be of utmost help to others is to show them the way through the experiences we have.

Sometimes it will be what they should do: Shortcuts to take, people to meet etc. Sometimes it will be what they should not do: Shortcuts not to take and people to stay away from! Whatever it is, we can be of service to others by giving them our experience and ultimately it will make us all better!

Give Others Your Help.
All in all, what we want to do is to help others. Zig Ziglar says that if we will "help others get what they want, we will in turn get what we want." If we want to be successful, we should consider ourselves servants of other people.

What can we do to help them and make them better? This is the true path to greatness and success, not only in business but in life!

Credits: Chris Widener

Movie review

We went out last evening and watched the mallu version of "Merchant of Venice".  The auditorium was at 70% capacity on Friday and we enjoyed watching the movie on 'big screen'. The script by James Albert (earlier classmates) was well written with twists, turns and suspense. The dialogues were intelligent and the costumes were flashy enough to mimic the 70's. Songs were good especially the lyrics by Kaithapram Damodaran Namboothiri along with the remake of 'Kannum kannum'. Even though the set was a small one, the cast handled their roles in an entertaining manner.

Came back home little after midnight and woke up late being lazy.

Friday, January 13, 2012

This weekend

Yesterday was an important day and I knew about it. I was able to resolve couple of problems at work prior to heading to the airport - one of it was confirmed solved just 15 minutes prior.  My flight was on time and I was able to come home on time and enjoy the dinner with my family - my wife cooked lots of specialty food for dinner. When asked about the occasion, she gave me a knowing smile.

This morning, I left to meet a friend and to have lunch with him.  I was planning to come back only by 3:00.  Somehow, in the middle of the conversation, I felt this strong feeling of returning home inside my mind and came home without lunching. Now I am going to have lunch at home.  Later in the evening, we are planning to go out for the mallu movie 'Merchant of Venice'. Tomorrow, we are going for the prayer meeting - the one which we've been skipping for years now.

I will not be able to make it to Chuch this Sunday - my son wants to attend the local church here and I agreed to accompany him as a family.  However to fulfill my commitment, I will come teach Sunday school and will review the lessons using slides.

I've been feeling extremely peaceful - so calm and quiet since Wednesday; no negative thoughts about or against anyone. Truly, only positive thoughts filled with great hope. I will not allow any negative thoughts to crawl into my mind. 'Faith in God' and 'complete trust in the loved ones' are those two things I carry with me always - those are my only strengths.

Enjoy your weekend thoroughly and stay happy.


Regular meeting

"Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where He prayed." - Mark 1:35

While I gave you guys the simple assignment to pray everyday in the morning.  Some of you admitted that you could not do it everyday.  I respect and appreciate your honesty.  I also look at it as if you are able to tell me this simply because you guys are close to me.

Look, let me tell you - I too am a lazy, selfish person who is too busy to arrange regular meeting time with God. It's because of that I try to devote my time on Sundays only for God. Apart from that, the first task I do right after taking a shower everyday, is spend some quiet time with the Lord - the time and duration varies depending on what's going on, on that particular day due to my self made obstacles and lifestyle.

But here is what I do - I simply ask God to give me the hunger to know Him, to receive the Holy Spirit. Further, I tell Him that I want to have a regular meeting with Him. If we love doing something - say, playing our favorite game or spending time with the person we love, we know how and when exactly to find time to do it.  Nobody needs to tell us about how to find time to do that.  Just like that, if the hunger to know God is within us, we certainly will find time to pray.

That is what Jesus did while He walked on earth - very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where He prayed.

Right after posting this article, I am heading out for my morning walk and later to the gym.  It's such a nice feeling to go out alone while it's still dark. On the way, there is a church where I will stop by and spend some quiet time as well.

Thursday, January 12, 2012


I've never made a fortune,
and it's probably too late now.
But I don't worry about that much,
I'm happy anyhow.

And as I go along life's way,
I'm reaping better than I sowed.
I'm drinking from my saucer,
'Cause my cup has overflowed.

Haven't got a lot of riches,
and sometimes the going's tough.
But I've got loving ones all around me,
and that makes me rich enough.

I thank God for his blessings,
and the mercies He's bestowed.
I'm drinking from my saucer,
'Cause my cup has overflowed.

I remember times when things went wrong,
My faith wore somewhat thin.
But all at once the dark clouds broke,
and the sun peeped through again.

So Lord, help me not to gripe,
about the tough rows I have hoed.
I'm drinking from my saucer,
'Cause my cup has overflowed.

If God gives me strength and courage,
When the way grows steep and rough.
I'll not ask for other blessings,
I'm already blessed enough.

And may I never be too busy,
to help others bear their loads.
Then I'll keep drinking from my saucer,
'Cause my cup has overflowed.

When I think of how many people
in this world have it worse than I do.
I realize just how blessed most of us really are.


Thank God for our blessings.
Can you name your blessing # 1?

A new song

Music speaks what cannot be expressed,
Soothes the mind and gives it rest,
Heals the heart and makes it whole,
Flows from heaven to the soul.


Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Ten Commandments of Marriage

Commandment 1 - Marriages are made in heaven. But so again, are thunder and lightning.

Commandment 2 - If you want your spouse to listen and pay strict attention to every word you say, talk in your sleep.

Commandment 3 - Marriage is grand -- and divorce is at least 100 grand!

Commandment 4 - Married life is very frustrating. In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens. In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.

Commandment 5 - When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: Either the car is new or the wife is.

Commandment 6 - Marriage is when a man and woman become as one; the trouble starts when they try to decide which one.

Commandment 7 - Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you said. After marriage, he will fall asleep before you finish talking.

Commandment 8 - Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding, economical, and a good cook. But the law allows only one wife.

Commandment 9 - Every woman wants a man who is handsome, understanding, economical and a considerate lover, but again, the law allows only one husband.

Commandment 10 - Man is incomplete until he marries. After that, he is finished.


Various moments

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Two things

Some readers asked me what were those two things I shared with my class last Sunday - hence am sharing it with the rest of the readers.

The two simple things I asked my class were:

(a) Clean up all the clutter from your desk/workspace.

This provides positive energy while performing your work.  Aditionally, it provides the psychological satisfaction by being at a clean desk - with things under control.

(b) Pray to God in the morning.

I asked my students to pray to God and ask Him to accompany to school in the morning. God is waiting just outside our hearts to come in and also to come with us.  Having God on our side can help us cross any hurdles.

These are the two simple things I asked my class to do - as an assignment.  Everyone communicated to me with their positive feelings. They are going to share their thoughts with me everyday prior to going to bed - for one week.  One student even recognized that she did this on the 'National Clean Off Your Desk Day' on January 9th and shared her happiness with me :-)



As of this morning, I heard back (via email/phone) from all of you about the two changes I asked you to make last Sunday.

Some of you reported that you were able to see the benefits yesterday itslef - Nice. Others are on the path to notice the change. Let's follow this schedule until Saturday and notice the impact.

As a teacher, I can only open the doors to your world - it's you who have to actually travel through it.

Thank you for getting back to me with the results.  Look forward to hearing from you today evening (again).


Judgement day

A preacher said to a farmer, "Do you belong to the Christian family?"

"No." said he, "they live two farms down."

"No, I mean are you lost?"

"No, I've been here thirty years."

"I mean are you ready for Judgment Day?"

"When is it?"

"It could be today or tomorrow."

"Well, when you find out for sure when it is, you let me know. My wife will probably want to go both days!"

Yeah - it's true.
It's the wives (at most houses) who keep track of these important days and events.
A family with a prudent wife receives blessing and favors from above.

Monday, January 9, 2012


How motivating can this message be?

Notice at the bottom - wishing "Have a nice day" with an exclamation mark :-)


Sunday, January 8, 2012

Job ads

This is how you interpret job advertisements:

"Competitive Salary" - We remain competitive by paying less than our competitors.

"Join Our Fast Paced Company" - We have no time to train you.

"Casual Work Atmosphere" -We don't pay enough to expect that you will dress up.

"Must be Deadline Oriented" - You will be six months behind schedule on your first day.

"Duties will Vary" - Anyone in the office can boss you around.

"Must have an Eye for Detail" - We have no quality control.

"Seeking Candidates with a Wide Variety of Experience" - You will need to replace three people who just left.

"Problem Solving Skills a Must" - You are walking into a company in perpetual chaos. Haven't heard a word from anyone out there. Your first task is to find out what is going on.

"Requires Team Leadership Skills" - You will have the responsibilities of a manager without the pay or respect.

"Good Communication Skills" - Management communicates poorly, so you have to figure out what they want and do it.


Commit Your Plans To The Lord

We resumed our class today after a short break. It was nice to see you, and spend little time in your presence. We will have regular classes from next week onward. I will bring in powerpoint slides and projector for our next few chapters and share the slides.

Like I said in class today, feel free to bring in your Physics, Chemistry, History or any subject that you find challenging at school to me - I may be able to help you understand those concepts and explain in a simple manner. I really like teaching and will be glad to help you with your subjects - even those outside our Sunday school curriculum. When you asked me about projectiles today, I was surprised I could remember the equations and diagrams which I learned about 25 years ago. I can spare additional time after our class (every Sunday) to explain and help you with your coursework.

Once you understand those concepts, you will love those subjects and be able to do homework in a breeze. Feel free to email me, or call me either at work/home - am available to help you anytime.

Today at church, I carried the censor during service after a very long time. Seems like I have not forgotten any of it and was able to do it (relatively) OK - my critics have not said anything negative (yet).

After the holidays, am heading back to Charlotte tomorrow morning - am in no mood to travel tomorrow due to all the complications at work. Anyway, am taking up one challenge at a time (trying to solve it) by committing them into the hands of the Lord.

Wish you a happy week ahead. In order to have a better 2012, we discussed about making couple of simple changes in our everyday life. Keep me posted about your progress - let's track how it's creating an impact in your life. Am sure it will - in a big way.


Pot of tears

Once a Jewish Rabbi started his prayers for the people in the congregation. He wanted that God should listen to his prayers and forgive the sins of all those who had assembled in the synagogue. That moment he heard the voice of God. It was something like this: “Let Tam pray for you. If Tam prays for you, I shall forgive your sins and bless you.”

When the Rabbi heard the voice of God he was terrified. However he gathered courage and turning to the congregation, he asked, “Tam, where are you? Come forward quickly!”

The Rabbi did not know who Tam was. As he was waiting anxiously for Tam, a poor man came forward trembling all over with fear and anxiety.

As the poor man was standing there quiet puzzled not knowing why he was called, the Rabbi told him what he heard from God. Tam told the Rabbi, “I will pray for you, let me go and take the prayer.”

But Tam returned to synagogue with a small earthen pot in his hand. He raised the pot and prayed like this: “Holy God, You know that I don’t know how to pray. But whatever I have I offer You. This pot contains my tears.”

“When I pray to you in the night, I remember my wife and children. My eyes get filled with tears when I think that they cannot get to Synagogue because they do not have proper clothes. Then I remember the poor people and the beggars. I see how they suffer from bitter cold, scorching heat, hunger and thirst. Then I cry again. Before those tears are dry I remember how we brothers scream and fight with one another. Then again I cry. I further remember how you suffer and cry remembering our trespasses. My sorrow then overflows beyond bounds. All these tears I have collected in this pot.”

The prayer of Tam was heard by God and He blessed all those who were present in the Synagogue.

Reciting mechanical prayers without paying attention to the meaning will not yield us results.
When our prayers are sincere and contain meaningful content (which may make make us cry), God hears such prayers.