Friday, November 6, 2009

Marriage myths


There are numerous myths about marriage that circulate among young adults.  You may happen to hear few of them from your peers and colleagues.  Ironically, most of these myths are being spread by unmarried individuals. If you really want to know the truth, you should clarify it with a married person.  Your best bet would be to approach your parent(s). However, never believe with what you heard on the streets or what you watched in movies or read negative about marriage in books.  Life is lot different from what we see 'on screen ' and what we read in books.

Personally, I believe that being married is one of the greatest experience a person can have.  Everyone of you should look forward to that experience with a positive attitude.  Here are some marriage myths I came across for you to read at your leisure. It was researched by one professor at Rutgers Univ, NJ.


Marriage Myth 1: Marriage benefits men much more than women.
Fact: Contrary to earlier and widely publicized reports, recent research finds men and women to benefit about equally from marriage, although in different ways. Both men and women live longer, happier, healthier and wealthier lives when they are married. Husbands typically gain greater health benefits, while wives gain greater financial advantages.


Marriage Myth 2: Having children typically brings a married couple closer together and increases marital happiness.
Fact: Many studies have shown that the arrival of the first baby commonly has the effect of pushing the mother and father farther apart, and bringing stress to the marriage. However, couples with children have a slightly lower rate of divorce than childless couples.


Marriage Myth 3: The keys to long-term marital success are good luck and romantic love.
Fact: Rather than luck and love, the most common reasons couples give for their long-term marital success are commitment and companionship. They define their marriage as a creation that has taken hard work, dedication and commitment (to each other and to the institution of marriage). The happiest couples are friends who share lives and are compatible in interests and values.


Marriage Myth 4: The more educated a woman becomes, the lower are her chances of getting married.
Fact: A recent study based on marriage rates in the mid-1990s concluded that today's women college graduates are more likely to marry than their non-college peers, despite their older age at first marriage. This is a change from the past, when women with more education were less likely to marry.


Marriage Myth 5: Couples who live together before marriage, and are thus able to test how well suited they are for each other, have more satisfying and longer-lasting marriages than couples who do not.
Fact: Many studies have found that those who live together before marriage have less satisfying marriages and a considerably higher chance of eventually breaking up. One reason is that people who cohabit may be more skittish of commitment and more likely to call it quits when problems arise. But in addition, the very act of living together may lead to attitudes that make happy marriages more difficult. The findings of one recent study, for example, suggest "there may be less motivation for cohabiting partners to develop their conflict resolution and support skills." (One important exception: Cohabiting couples who are already planning to marry each other in the near future have just as good a chance at staying together as couples who don't live together before marriage).


Marriage Myth 6: People can't be expected to stay in a marriage for a lifetime as they did in the past because we live so much longer today.
Fact: Unless our comparison goes back a hundred years, there is no basis for this belief. The enormous increase in longevity is due mainly to a steep reduction in infant mortality. And while adults today can expect to live a little longer than their grandparents, they also marry at a later age. The life span of a typical, divorce-free marriage, therefore, has not changed much in the past 50 years. Also, many couples call it quits long before they get to a significant anniversary: Half of all divorces take place by the seventh year of a marriage.


Marriage Myth 7: Marrying puts a woman at greater risk of domestic violence than if she remains single.
Fact: Contrary to the proposition that for men "a marriage license is a hitting license," a large body of research shows that being unmarried — and especially living with a man outside of marriage — is associated with a considerably higher risk of domestic violence for women. One reason for this finding is that married women may significantly underreport domestic violence. Further, women are less likely to marry and more likely to divorce a man who is violent. Yet it is probably also the case that married men are less likely to commit domestic violence because they are more invested in their wives' well-being, and more integrated into the extended family and community. These social forces seem to help check men's violent behavior.


Marriage Myth 8: Married people have less satisfying sex lives, and less sex, than single people.
Fact: According to a large-scale national study, married people have both more and better sex than do their unmarried counterparts. Not only do they have sex more often but they enjoy it more, both physically and emotionally.


Marriage Myth 9: Cohabitation is just like marriage, but without "the piece of paper."
Fact: Cohabitation typically does not bring the benefits — in physical health, wealth and emotional wellbeing — that marriage does. In terms of these benefits, cohabitants in the United States more closely resemble singles than married couples. This is due, in part, to the fact that cohabitants tend not to be as committed as married couples, and they are more oriented toward their own personal autonomy and less to the well-being of their partner.


Marriage Myth 10: Because of the high divorce rate, which weeds out the unhappy marriages, people who stay married have happier marriages than people did in the past when everyone stuck it out, no matter how bad the marriage.
Fact: According to what people have reported in several large national surveys, the general level of happiness in marriages has not increased and probably has declined slightly. Some studies have found in recent marriages, compared to those of 20 or 30 years ago, significantly more work-related stress, more marital conflict and less marital interaction.


Credits: David Popenoe, the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University, New Brunswick, N.J.

Thursday, November 5, 2009

+ ve side of marriage

These days, I hear numerous young adults who are educated and successful in their career choosing to stay single.  Below is an article that I came across that lists the positive side of marriage.  In a nutshell, the author lists four benefits such as (1) companionship, (2) social life, (3) longer life & (4) less stressful child-rearing.  Read on, if this interests you.  

There are many good things about being married but, because each marriage is different, it is likely that not everyone has yet discovered them all. Being married is generally regarded as being a positive thing and with good reason. That is not to say that being single is in any way wrong but it does suggest that being married has certain benefits and advantages over being single.

So just what are the best things about being married?

Companionship. In a marriage there is always someone to talk to or to listen to you. Sometimes, of course, your spouse might not be 'really' listening to you but it is still more satisfying than talking to yourself. It is good to have someone there to have a conversation, to bounce ideas of or to have a witty exchange of remarks. Companionship also offers support and can be particularly important at times of trouble or stress. At such times, having a partner has distinct advantages over being single.

Social Life. Simply by having a partner with you, you can have a social life that is not so readily or easily available for singletons. You can visit places together, visit friends or holiday together. For the single person, that is far more difficult as often modern social life is geared around 'couples' and the single person can often feel left out or sometimes, simply not invited. At times, perhaps, having children might seem to impede your social life but, really, it just brings a change in your social life and much of that social life involves being with your children. Until, that is, they grow and start building their own social lives.

Longer Life. Well certainly for men. Studies have shown that married men tend to live longer than single men. It seems that marriage has a stabilising influence upon men, resulting in less stress and more opportunities to relieve stress and gain pleasure. It seems that even a 'bad' marriage is better for men than being single; I guess even a 'bad' marriage is not 'bad' all the time!

Less Stressful Child-rearing. Stress seems almost inevitable when it comes to raising children. Although many single parents do raise children successfully, it seems the stress is less when the tasks are shared with a partner.

So there you have four of the best things about being married. Each marriage is, of course, different, so you may well find other advantages in your marriage. Do you appreciate those advantages, though, do you realise the benefits your partner brings to you? The chances are that you do not, or at least you do not realise fully the advantages in your marriage. Take a little time to think and reflect then try writing down, or telling your partner, the good things about your marriage.

Credits: Doug Woods

You

You're an individual. You're you. What makes you that you is your smile, your voice; the way you walk, the way you take everything calmly in Your stride; your interests, your love; your personality and your features.

No one can take these things away from you. All these combined as one, forms a unique and beautiful individual, you. There is no one else in this entire universe that is exactly like you. No matter how much they may look like you, talk like you and have in common with you, the bottom line is that they'll never be you. You can't be replaced.

Another thing is, you can't be someone else. The same things apply; you can look like them and have everything in common with them, but the one thing that will never be is that you will never be them.

We all have a special something that we all treasure deep inside and no one can ever take that away from you, just like we can't take it away from others. No one is exactly the same; we're all different in Mind, Body and Soul. We're all meant to be.

Learn to love yourself. To do this you have to truly look inside yourself. Find the center of the whole you and work on it. Build on it. Work on it's potential. Once this is done, then you can look at yourself in the mirror and honestly say, "I can see myself ". This is because when you have worked upon your inside, what you see of yourself on the outside becomes what you are on the inside. you'll be able to see the whole you reflected back 100%.

This is what true beauty is: knowing who you are and accepting it. Beauty, comes from within and this is how it shines through.

Credits: Shelly G

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Marriage - defined

What is Marriage?

Here are some humorous definitions.

1. Marriage is not a word. It's a sentence (a life sentence).

2. Marriage is love. Love is blind. Therefore marriage is an institution for the blind.

3. Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his Bachelor's Degree and the woman gets her masters.

4. Marriage is a three-ring circus:  engagement ring, wedding ring and suffering.

5. Married life is full of excitement and frustration: In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.In the third year, they both speak and the NEIGHBOUR listens.

6. Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends.You order what you want, and when you see what the other person has, you wish you had ordered that instead.

7. There was this man who muttered a few words in the church and found himself married. A year later he muttered something in his sleep and found himself divorced.

8. A happy marriage is a matter of giving and taking; the husband gives and the wife takes.

9. Son: Is it true Dad? I heard that in ancient China, a man doesn't know his wife until he marries her. Father: That happens everywhere, son, EVERYWHERE!

10. Love is one long sweet dream, and marriage is the alarm clock.

11. They say that when a man holds a woman's hand before marriage, it is love; after marriage it is self-defense.

12. When a newly married man looks happy, we know why. But when a 10-year married man looks happy, we wonder why.

13. There was this lover who said that he would go through hell for her. They got married, and now he is going through HELL.

14. After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin. They just can't face each other, but they still stay together.

15. Marriage is man and a woman become one. The trouble starts when they try to decide which one.

16. I married Miss right; I just didn't know her first name was Always.

17. It's not true that married men live longer than single men, it only seems longer.

18. At a cocktail party, one woman said to another: AREN'T YOU WEARING YOUR RING ON THE WRONG FINGER? The other replied, YES, I, AM. I MARRIED THE WRONG MAN.

19. A man inserted an ad in the paper - WIFE WANTED. The next day he received a hundred of letters and they all said the same thing - YOU CAN HAVE MINE.

20. When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing - either the car is new or the wife is.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

The old woodcutter



One day, while a woodcutter was cutting a branch of a tree above a river, his axe fell into the river.

When he cried out, and angel appeared and asked, "Why are you crying?"

The woodcutter replied that his axe has fallen into water, and he needed the axe to make his living.

The angel went down in the water and reappeared with a golden axe.

"Is this your axe?" the angel asked.

The woodcutter replied, "No."

The angel again went down and came up with a silver axe."Is this your axe?" the angel asked.

Again, the woodcutter replied, "No."

The angel went down again and came up with an iron axe. "Is this your axe?"the angel asked.

"Yes", he replied.

The angel was pleased with the man's honesty and gave him all three axes to keep, and the woodcutter went home happy.

Few months later, the woodcutter was walking with his wife along the riverbank, and his wife fell into the river. When he cried out, the same angel again appeared and asked him, "Why are you crying now?"

"Oh angel, my wife has fallen into the water!"

The angel went down into the water and came up with Angelina Jolie.

"Is this your wife?" the angel asked.

"Yes, that's her." cried the woodcutter.

The angel was furious. "You lied! That is an untruth!"

The woodcutter fell to his knees and cried, "Oh, forgive me, angel, it is a misunderstanding. You see, if I had said 'no' to Angelina Jolie, You would have come up with Catherine Zeta-Jones. Then if I also said 'no'to her, you would have come up with my wife. Had I then said 'yes,' you would have given me all three. Oh, dear angel, I am a poor man, and am not able to take care of all three wives, so THAT'S why I said 'yes' to Angelina Jolie."


Image Credit: learning from life

Wedding - who does what

Let's look at the economics of a wedding.  Earlier, the Bride's father used to pay for almost everything.  Now a days, the burden is being shared between both families and even the bride and groom put in their share towards wedding expenses.  There are no rules about who should pay for what, but below are the general guidelines

Wedding Gown, Headpiece & Accessories - The Bride's Family

Wedding Ring for Bride - The Groom
Wedding Ring for Groom - The Bride

Wedding Gift for Groom - The Bride
Wedding Gift for Bride - The Groom
Bridesmaid Gifts - The Bride
Groomsmen/Usher Gifts - The Groom

Bride's Bouquet - The Groom
Bridesmaid Bouquets - The Bride's Family
Mother's Corsages - The Groom
Grandmother Corsages - The Bride's Family
Groom's Boutonniere - The Groom
Groomsmen Boutonnieres - The Groom
Usher's Boutonnieres - The Groom
Ceremony/Reception Flowers - The Bride's Family

Altar Baskets/Arches - The Bride's Family
Canopy/Carpet - The Bride's Family
Kneeling Bench/Candleabrahs - The Bride's Family
Rented Items for Wedding - The Bride's Family
Rented Items for Reception - The Bride's Family

Invitations/Announcements - The Bride's Family
Wedding Programs - The Bride's Family
Napkins/Matches/Printed Items - The Bride's Family

Marriage License - The Groom
Medical Visit for Bride - The Bride
Medical Visit for Groom - The Groom

Church Fee - The Bride's Family
Clergyman/Officiant Fee - The Groom
Musician/Soloist - The Bride's Family
Church Janitor - The Bride's Family
Reception Hall Fee - The Bride's Family
Catered Reception/Professional Services - The Bride's Family

Wedding Photography - The Bride's Family
Video Photography - The Bride's Family
Orchestra/Band/DJ - The Bride's Family

Wedding Cake - The Bride's Family
Wedding Favors - The Bride's Family
Groom's Cake - The Groom's Family
Rice Bags - The Bride's Family

Rehearsal Dinner - The Grooms Family
Bridesmaid Luncheon - The Bride
Bachelor Party - Best Man/Groom's Attendants
Wedding Breakfast - The Bride's Family
Bridal Brunch - The Bride's Family

Bridesmaid's Gowns - Bridesmaid's
Maid of Honor Gown - Maid of Honor
Matron of Honor Gown - Matron of Honor
Best Man Formal Wear - Best Man
Usher's Formal Wear - Ushers
Groomsmen's Formal Wear - Groomsmen
Gloves/Ties/Ascots for Attendants - The Groom

Father of Bride Formal Wear - Bride's Family
Father of Groom Formal Wear - Groom's Family
Children's Formal Wear - The Children's Parents

Limousine Service - The Groom
Honeymoon Arrangements - The Groom
Travel Expenses to the Wedding - The Out-of-town Attendant or Family Member
Accommodations for out of town Guests - The Bride
Gifts for the Couple - Guest, Attendants and Family

Monday, November 2, 2009

Wedding dance

Here is a wedding dance that covers evolution from 1960s till today.
It is little over 6 minutes long, but worth watching once.
Turn on your speakers to listen to the music as well.

Even more love and wedding quotes

Let there be spaces in your togetherness.
- Kahlil Gibran

You give but little when you give of your possessions.
It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.
- Kahlil Gibran

I have looked into your eyes with my eyes.
I have put my heart near your heart.
- Pope John XXIII

God is a great matchmaker.
- Jewish Proverb

Where there is love there is life.
- Mahatma Gandhi

Let not the sun go down upon your wrath.
- Ephesians 4:26

There is nothing more lovely in life than the union of two people whose love for one another has grown through the years, from the small acorn of passion, into a great rooted tree
- Vita Sackville-West

Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.
- Barnett Brickner

How do I love thee?
Let me count the ways.
- Elizabeth Barrett Browning

But love is blind, and lovers cannot see:
The pretty follies that themselves commit.
- William Shakespeare

Two souls with but a single thought,
Two hearts that beats one.
- Freedrich Holm Joseph Von Munch

Union gives strength.
- Aesop

...And when two people understand each other in their inmost heats,
Their words are sweet and strong like the fragrance of orchids.
- I Ching

...In marriage, everyday you love,
and everyday you forgive.
It is an ongoing sacrament, love and forgiveness
- Bill Moyers

The deed of love is stronger than words
- Pearl Bailey

The first duty of love is to listen
- Paul Tillich

Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit
- Peter Ustinov

...To make One, there must be Two...
- W.H. Auden

What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined together to strengthen each other in all labor, to minister to each other in all sorrow, to share with each other in all gladness, to be one with each other in the silent unspoken memories?
- George Eliot

To be loved, be lovable.
- Ovine

Love comforteth like sunshine after rain.
Doubt thou the stars are fire; doubt that the sun doth move; doubt truth to be a liar; but never doubt I love you. I love thee, I love but thee with a love that shall not die. Till the sun grows cold and the stars grow old.
- William Shakespeare

Love conquers all things; let us too surrender to love.
- Virgil

There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.
- George Sand

If love were what the rose is, and I were like the leaf, our lives would grow together in sad or singing weather.
- Algernon Charles Swinburne

Love me tender, love me sweet, never let me go.
- Elivis Presley

You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love.
- Henry Drummond

Each moment of a happy love's hour is worth an age of dull and common life.
- Aphra Behn

Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.
- H. Jackson Brown Jr.

Who, being loved, is poor?
- Oscar Wilde

There is one pain I often feel, which you'll never know. It's caused by absence of you.
- Ashleigh Brilliant

That farewell kiss which resembles greeting; that last glance of love which becomes the sharpest pang of sorrow.
- George Elliot

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye.
- Antoine de Saint-Exupery

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.
- Helen Keller

The supreme happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved.
- Victor Hugo

Love is a great beautifier.
- Louisa May Alcott

Love and you shall be loved.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

It is easy to love people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone unloved in our own home. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start.
- Mother Theresa

The best portion of a good man's life,
His little, nameless, unremembered acts,
Of kindness and of love.
- William Wordsworth

When you fish for love, bait with your heart, not your brain.
- Mark Twain

There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.
- Martin Luther

A good marriage is that in which each appoints the other guardian of his solitude.
- Rainer Maria Rilke

If there is such a thing as a good marriage, it is because it resembles friendship rather than love.
- Michel de Montaigne

There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.
- George Sands

There is no remedy for love than to love more.
- Henry David Thoreau

There are only four questions of value in life, Don Octavio.
What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made?
What is worth living for? What is worth dying for?
The answer to each is the same. Only love.
- from the film, Don Juan DeMarco

If you want to be loved, love and be loveable.
- Benjamin Franklin

The magic of first love is our ignorance that it can never end.
- Benjamin Disraeli

Love is the joy of the good, the wonder of the wise, the amazement of the Gods.
- Plato

Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be.
- Robert Browning

You are always new, the last of your kisses was ever the sweetest.
- John Keats

And all for love, and nothing for reward.
- Edmund Spenser

If music be the food of love, play on...
- William Shakespear

Doubt thou the stars are fire; doubt that the sun doth move; doubt truth to be a liar; but never doubt I love you. I love thee, I love but thee with a love that shall not die. Till the sun grows cold and the stars grow old.
- William Shakespeare

The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.
You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her.
Never underestimate the power of love.
The way to love anything is to realize it may be lost.
The heart has its reasons that reason does not know at all.
Music is love in search of a word.
There is pleasure in the pathless woods;
there is a rapture on the lonely shore;
There is society, where none intrudes,
by the deep sea, and music in its roar.
- Lord Byron

In solitude, where we are least alone.
- Lord Byron

What sweet delight a quiet life affords.
- William Drummond

The way of a superior man is three-fold: Virtuous he is free from anxieties; wise, he is free from perplexities; bold, he is free from fear.
- Confucious

More love and marriage quotes

The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes.
~Amy Grant

In marriage, each partner is to be an encourager rather than a critic, a forgiver rather than a collector of hurts, an enabler rather than a reformer.
~H. Norman Wright and Gary J. Oliver

Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterwards.
~Benjamin Franklin

A portion of your soul has been entwined with mine. A gentle kind of togetherness, while separate we stand. As two trees deeply rooted in separate plots of ground, while their topmost branches come together, forming a miracle of lace against the heavens.
~Janet Miles

The kind of marriage you make depends upon the kind of person you are. If you are a happy, well-adjusted person, the chances are your marriage will be a happy one. If you have made adjustments so far with more satisfaction than distress, you are likely to make your marriage and family adjustments satisfactorily. If you are discontented and bitter about your lot in life, you will have to change before you can expect to live happily ever after.
~Evelyn Duvall and Reuben Hill

Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.
~Rumi

The quality of love and the duration of a relationship are in direct proportion to the depth of the commitment by both people to making the relationship successful. Commit yourself wholeheartedly and unconditionally to the most important people in your life.
~Brian Tracy

I love you, for putting your hand into my heart and passing over all the foolish, weak things that you can’t help dimly seeing there, and for drawing out into the light all the beautiful belongings that no one else had looked quite so far enough to find
~Roy Croft

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where, I love you simply, without problems or pride:
I love you in this way because I don’t know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep it is your eyes that close.
~Pablo Neruda

Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life.
~Leo Buscaglia

Life without love is like a tree without blossom and fruit.
~Kahlil Gibran

May my heart be your shelter, and my arms be your home
~Marianne Williamson

You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.
~Sam Keen

An act of love that fails is just as much a part of the divine life as a act of love that succeeds, for love is measured by fullness, not by reception
~Harold Loukes

Love is a gift of one's inner most soul to another so both can be whole
~Tea Rose

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
~Francois Mauriac

Love received and love given comprise the best form of therapy.
~Gordon William Allport

Love enables you to put your deepest feelings and fears in the palm of you partner's hand, knowing they will be handled with care.
~Carl S. Avery

Love is not something you feel. It's something you do.
~David Wilkerson

The only love worthy of a name is unconditional.
~John Powell

Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get - only with what you are expecting to give - which is everything.
~Katherine Hepburn

Love is the only thing you get more of by giving it away.
~Tom Wilson

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer, no disease that enough love will not heal, no door that enough love will not bridge, no wall that enough love will not throw down, no sin that enough love will not redeem... It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble, how hopeless the outlook, how muddled the tangle, how great the mistake. A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all. If only you could love enough, you could be the happiest and most powerful being in the world...
~Emmet Fox

Marriage is love personified.
~Phoenix Flame

One should believe in marriage as in the immortality of the soul.
~Honore deBalzac

Married couples who love each other tell each other a thousand things without talking.
~Chinese proverb

There is no more lovely, friendly, charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.
~Martin Luther

Marriage is the perfection of what love aimed at, ignorant of what it sought.
~Emerson

When you make a sacrifice in marriage, you’re sacrificing not to each other but to unity in a relationship.
~Joseph Campbell

Top 10 expesive colleges

According to the Chronicle of Higher Education, below are the most expensive four year degree colleges, and the total cost for 2009 - 2010.

1.  Sarah Lawrence College Bronxville, N.Y.: $55,788

2.  Georgetown University, Washington, D.C.: $52,161

3.  New York University, New York, NY: $51,993

4.  George Washington University, Washington, D.C.: $51,775

5.  Johns Hopkins University, Baltimore, MD: $51,690

6.  Columbia University, New York: $51,544

7.  Wesleyan University, Middletown, Conn.: $51,432

8.  Trinity College, Hartford, Conn.: $51,400

9.  Washington University in St. Louis, St. Louis, MO: $51,329

10.  Bates College, Lewiston, Maine: $51,300

10. Vassar College, Poughkeepsie, N.Y.: $51,300

Few love and marriage quotes

Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind - William Shakespeare

My true love hath my heart, and I have his - Philip Sydney

Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all - St. Augustine

A part of you has grown in me. And so you see, it's you and me together forever and never apart, maybe in distance, but never in heart.- Author Unknown

Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself. Love possesses not nor would it be possessed; for love is sufficient unto love - Kahlil Gibran

At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet - Plato

There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved - George Sands

Love those who love you - Voltaire

My beloved is mine and I am his - Song of Songs

Whatever our souls are made up, his and mine are the same - Emily Bronte

Soulmates: two halves of the same soul, joining together in lifes journey - Author Unknown

You don't marry someone you can live with - you marry the person who you cannot live without - Author Unknown

Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own house. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor... Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God's kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting - Mother Theresa

I can guarantee we'll have tough times. I guarantee that at some point - one or both of us will want to get out. But I also guarantee that if I don't ask you to be mine, I'll regret it for the rest of my life, 'cause I know in my heart you're the only one for me - From the movie Runaway Bride

If I could reach up and hold a star for every time you've made me smile, the entire evening sky would be in the palm of my hand - Author Unknown

Popular marriage quotes

By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. - Socrates

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Sunday, November 1, 2009

Gospel reading Nov 1



Gospel reading for Nov 1 is from St. Matthew 16: 13 - 23.


13  When Jesus came to the region of Caesarea Philippi, he asked his disciples, "Who do people say the Son of Man is?"

14  They replied, "Some say John the Baptist; others say Elijah; and still others, Jeremiah or one of the prophets."

15  "But what about you?" he asked. "Who do you say I am?"

16  Simon Peter answered, "You are the Christ, the Son of the living God."

17  Jesus replied, "Blessed are you, Simon son of Jonah, for this was not revealed to you by man, but by my Father in heaven.

18  And I tell you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it.

19  I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven."

20  Then he warned his disciples not to tell anyone that he was the Christ.

Jesus Predicts His Death

21  From that time on Jesus began to explain to his disciples that he must go to Jerusalem and suffer many things at the hands of the elders, chief priests and teachers of the law, and that he must be killed and on the third day be raised to life.

22  Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him. "Never, Lord!" he said. "This shall never happen to you!"

23  Jesus turned and said to Peter, "Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men."

At the time of this occurrence,  Jesus had established himself as a well known figure among the people of Israel.  Jesus had performed several miracles and healed many.  Towards the beginning of this chapter, the Pharisites and Sadduches are asking for a sign from heaven.  Some people were saying Jesus was a prophet, some compared him with John the Baptist, while others said that He carries the spirit of Elijah.

Jesus understands that people have various thoughts about Him.  That's when He turns to Peter and asks him, what he thought.  Peter said, "You are the Christ, the Son of the living God."  Jesus is impressed by Peter's answer and said that God Himself provided that wisdom to Peter to understand about Jesus.

God is the source of all wisdom.  Any subject we learn, any research we do, any quest in search of truth, all leads us towards God.  The path may be long and narrow, but that's where it ultimately takes us to.  We can see God behind everything that is being revealed to us.  Some call it intelligence, others call it wisdom.  Holy Spirit is the source of wisdom and intelligence.  There are prayers for Holy Spirit, but many of us are not even aware of it.  Most of us, we know about God, the father, and Jesus Christ, the son.

Jesus is impressed about Peter's wisdom and hence choses to build His church on this wisdom.  He then hands over the keys of the kingdom of heaven.  This is what is referred to as Peter guarding the pearly gates.  There are twelve gates and each gate is believed to be made of single pearl.

Having handed over the keys of the heaven to Peter, Jesus is getting ready to suffer and die at the hands of the humans.  Just like how we prevents our loved ones from danger and humiliation, Peter out of love and care is trying to talk Jesus out from bearing this cross.

There are often times in life when we have to bear the hardships for the benefit of others.  Some people have to suffer in order for many others to enjoy the fruits. The Holy Spirit showers the blessing of wisdom over some of us.  To be called as a rock of faith and love is one of the best compliments a person can receive.